1. It’s not their fault and it’s not easy to control
2. If they have random mood swings/ crying episodes it’s not their fault or yours.
3. Don’t pressure them into talking about things.
4. Just love and support them… No matter what.If you can’t do this, don’t get yourself, and mostly them involved.
ive changed soo much through the year. im like a completely different person. I love myself. I feel powerful and beautiful and strong. I never thought this could happen one day. ive hated every pore of myself. ive hated every millimeter of myself. ive hated myself so much I couldn’t see myself in the mirror without throwing up. ive spent 16 years of my fucking life hating myself, not talking to anyone, hiding myself, crying. but now its incredible this summer ive really worked with myself. I learned how to love myself. And now i get it when people say it will get better one day, now I understand what it’s like to actually learn by yourself how to love yourself. believe me it will happen you will love yourself. you will find yourself beautiful. everything is going to be alright. this is a promise
I’m so proud of you sweetpea
(via dovemother)
Ok, I’m seeing a lot of Barbs on Twitter defending Nicki Minaj and her bailing her brother out… and I’m struggling trying to comprehend WHY!
If you didn’t already know Jelani Maraj, Nicki’s brother, used Nicki’s name to lure a 12 year old girl into his truck, drove her around the corner and raped her. The girl was thankfully able to get away and call the cops only for Jelani to drive away and pass a surveillance camera. She was treated at Queens General Hospital. The girl was immediately able to ID Jelani, and as well as evidence from the SUV, license plate, etc. Jelani was arrested and charged. He was also posted for 100k bail.
and heres what’s fucked up: Nicki actually payed for his bail! Nicki identifies as a feminist and has actively spoken about women’s rights and issues so I’m having trouble understanding how she can think this is okay. AND Yes, I know this doesn’t mean that the charges are gonna be dropped and he’s gonna get away with rape, but currently at the moment he isn’t in a jail cell, he isn’t in legal custody, he’s literally chillin awaiting trial. AND since we are talking about Trials, Nicki is very much so capable of providing him with the best lawyers in the country, seeing that she’s been supportive of him enough to post bail, and those lawyers could very well minimize his sentencing or by some miracle help him get away with this. But let’s for a moment think about the girl who was actually raped. She’s going to sleep tonight knowing that her rapist is free. Her parents are going to sleep tonight knowing that their daughter’s rapist is free. The 12 year old girl is probably going through severe trauma and anxiety right now. but what’s really awful is the fact that she was obviously a Nicki fan, enough of a fan to get in the car with a stranger because he was Nicki’s brother, so imagine how she feels to know that the person responsible for making her rapist free is her very own idol. So I’m fed up with people trying to defend either of the two, I’m tired of barbs trying to make her seem like she can do no wrong, because this whole thing is seriously fucked up and I’m gonna be real fucking pissed if it all gets swapped underneath the rug.